Bonus Mom Belittling

The Bible says, "Some men's sins are clearly evident, preceding them to judgment, but those of some men follow later.  Likewise, the good works of some are clearly evident, and those that are otherwise cannot be hidden." (1Timothy 5:24-25) I sometimes feel like that with my bonus children; like my good works are not seen …

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Something About Forgiveness

Forgiveness...freeing relief. It was a hard weekend.  We had a full house. Our Bella is a few weeks shy of being adult. We also have two teenage boys, our seven-year old, and our infant. We had a lot of life in just a few days. Our almost grown daughter is EXACTLY like her mother except …

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Ugh. Feeling Some Kind Of Way.

Bella's 16th birthday bash is going on as we speak.  I was never invited to go. My name was never specifically mentioned.  Jazmine was mentioned but not me.  No problem.  Didn't bother me not one bit. In the days preceding tonight, A LOT went on; so much so that if it were up to my …

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Wants Vs. Needs

The wants versus needs debate knows no more of a fertile feuding ground then in a blended family. I've listened to and been apart of these conversations with girlfriends, family, coworkers, acquaintances. It all comes down to defining a "thing" as a want or a need. For Jazmine's birthday, I started to hound after face …

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You Can’t Take His Mother Out Of Him

I always thought Bella was the Tanya carrier. Her mother's thumbprint is all over her (as it should be).  I did not occur to me that Scott would be her likeness as well. Boy were my eyes opened these past two weeks. Scott…..Scott. The boy won't answer a question directly regardless of how succinctly I …

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Single Mother By Choice DOES NOT EQUAL Single Mother by default

A Facebook friend of mine, whom I have known since high school, wrote this as her status today.  I can surmise that this well said thought came to be in print after hearing another woman complain about her woes of single-motherhood.  My friend wrote, Sometimes I wish people really understood what a single mother really …

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Just Call Me StepMom

It happened over the course of time. I want to explain how I got here but I don't want to get in the habit of feeling that I have to defend myself.  For so long I've explained to every single person I've developed a relationship with what I've tried to do as a bonus mom …

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