When You Are Trying To Conceive

When you are trying to conceive, people around you get pregnant every month.

When you are trying to conceive, other folks around you are trying their best not to.

When you are trying to conceive, you can spot a baby bump from yards away no matter how faint it is.

When you are trying to conceive, ALL baby items go on sale.

When you are trying to conceive, when your period comes on, again, you secretly peek at your husband to see if he is disappointed as well or if he has started to blame you.

When you are trying to conceive, you are genuinely happy for all those you know who are expecting while you wait.

When you are trying to conceive, you explore ALL options of how to get to your goal faster because, in your opinion, you have waited long enough.

When you are trying to conceive, you become an expert in the reproductive system.

When you are trying to conceive, you try not to take someone else’s baby blessing as a strike against you.

When you are trying to conceive, your first sign of Aunt Flow is very depressing.

When you are trying to conceive, the ‘what’s wrong with me’ thought is never far from your mind.

When you are trying to conceive, it is hard to think of anything else; it is a daily itch in the back of your mind.

This is not an exhaustive list and I am sure that by the time this post is published, I will have added even more to the 12 here, but it is enough of a list to help in two ways.  One, for those who are trying to conceive (TTC), you are not alone in your emotions.  Second, for those that know of someone who is TTC, to know what is really going on in their mind so you can empathize with them.

I know a woman whose son died suddenly.  I was not close to her but I wanted to comfort her somehow and I had no idea how to approach her.  She posted a blog someone else had written about how to interact with a grieving parent and it helped me to know what she was thinking and feeling, what was safe to say and not safe to say. This post is not a how-to on what to say to someone TTC but it may help with that brief look/shadow that comes across their face when anything baby is mentioned.

 

 

 

 

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