Being the bigger person gets tiring. For one thing, it’s not something you can do on your own strength. It requires Jesus. Your strength, will power, or whatever you want to call it, will only last for so long. It will only go so far. At some point, you will hit that wall. What do you do then?
“Don’t take my kindness for weakness” is a catch phrase statement made when people who have been nice and kind towards someone who irks them, hit that wall. The catch phrase is a defense for the nice person. They want it to be known that they aren’t punks. They want it to be known that they can stop being nice at any time.
Here’s the problem. Kindness is not weakness. It’s strength. Meekness is not weakness. It’s power under control. It is a choice to be kind and a choice to be meek. Folks only think they are getting over on you when you are nice or meek in spite of their ugly antics. Even if they actually get one over on you, they never win!
The fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such there is no law. Gal. 5:22-23) never lose. You are always sowing and reaping. It NEVER stops. So, if you are going to be kind. Be kind. If you are going to be meek. Be meek. Don’t use the catch phrase to fit in. Exercising the fruit of the Spirit is not popular which means you won’t fit in and you will stand alone. No catch phrase is going to change that.
I’ll be honest with you. Having your flesh insulted hurts but it does not mean you are weak. Saying that catch phrase when someone has pissed you off to the utmost will appease your flesh in that moment but it has no lasting effects and the next time you find yourself getting to that point where you want to tell someone off, you will be fishing around for something else to say. It’s a cycle and before you know it, you will be back to being the person you were before Christ.
Whatever you feed lives. Whatever you starve dies. You feed the flesh, the flesh will live. You starve it, it will die. Feed the spirit.